SWALI:
INARUHUSIWA KUWASILIANA MARA KWA MARA NA MCHUMBA WAKO? KWA SIMU AMA BARUA AMA E-MAIL?
JIBU
Sifa
zote njema Anastahiki Allaah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'ala) Aliyetukuka Mola
wa walimwengu wote, Swalah na salamu zimshukie kipenzi chetu Mtume
(Swalla Allahu 'alayhi wa aalihi wa sallam) na Swahaba zake (Radhiya
Allahu 'anhum jamiy'an) na watangu wema mpaka Siku ya Qiyaamah.
Ama
kuhusu kuwasiliana baina ya mvulana aliyeposa na posa yake kukubaliwa
na msichana na walii wake basi hakuna tatizo lolote ikiwa mawasiliano
yao ni katika mipaka ya sheria. Hivyo, kumpigia simu hakuna ubaya ikiwa
ni katika kuyapanga yale mambo ya ndoa yao na matayarisho yake. Ama
ikiwa mawasiliano hayo yatakuwa nje ya misingi hiyo na kupelekea
kuzungumza kuhusu mahusiano na mapenzi na mengine yasiyofaa, basi ni
vizuri kujiepusha na mawasiliano hayo.
Mara
nyingi mawasiliano ya karibu kabla ya ndoa, yameleta uharibifu mkubwa
na madhara katika jamii na kusababisha posa nyingi kuharibika na hata
vatu kutumbukia katika zinaa.
Mbali
na mawasiliano hayo mvulana anaweza kwenda nyumbani kwa mchumba wake
bora tu wasikae faragha wao peke yao katika mazungumzo. Inabidi awe
pamoja nao maharimu wa msichana. Hii ni kwa sababu Mtume (Swalla Llaahu
'alayhi wa sallam) amesema: “Hakai faragha mwanamume na mwanamke ila wa tatu wao ni shetani. Na hakika shetani hutembea katika mwili wa mwanaadamu kama itembeavyo damu”.
Hii ni kuwa bado nyinyi hamjakuwa mume na mke, na mmoja kati yenu
anaweza kuvunja ndoa hiyo baada ya kuwa mmekubaliana hapo awali.
Mwanamume anaweza kusema basi hataki tena harusi au mwanamke kujibu kuwa
hakuna tena harusi.
Ile
desturi ya wachumba kuwa wanakwenda pamoja katika mabustani, sinema au
kusafiri kabla ya kuoana si desturi ya Kiislamu. Na athari yake mara
nyengine inakuwa mbaya kwani wanaweza kutumbukia katika maasi na kisha
mwanamume akasema hataki tena harusi na binti huyo. Baada ya hapo
wanaume wanakuwa wakimtweza binti kama yule na inakuwa ni vigumu kwake
kutakiwa na mume mwengine.
Na Allah Anajua zaidi
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10 Ways of Protection from Shaytan:
Imam Ibn ul Qayyim
Seeking refuge with Allah from Shaytan. Allah the Most High said, “And if there comes to you from Satan an evil suggestion, then seek refuge in Allah. Indeed, He is the Hearing, the Knowing.” [41:36]
Recitation of the two soorahs al-Falaq and an-Nas, as they have wondrous effect in seeking refuge with Allah from evil, weakening Shaytan and protection from him. This is why the Messenger, sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam, said: “No person seeks refuge with anything like the Mu`awwidhatayn (soorahs al-Falaq and an-Nas)”. [an-Nasaa’i, 5337]
Recitation of Ayat al-Kursi (2:255).
Recitation of soorah al-Baqarah. The Messenger, sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam, said, “The house in which al-Baqarah is recited is not approached by Shaytan.” [Muslim]
The final part of al-Baqarah. The Messenger, sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam, said, “Whoever recites the two last verses of al-Baqarah at night they will suffice him.” [Muslim]
Recitation of the beginning of soorah Mu’min (Ghafir), until His saying, “wa ilayhi-l-maseer” (to Him is the destination). (i.e. “Ha. Meem. The revelation of the Book is from Allah, the Exalted in Might, the Knowing, the forgiver of sin, acceptor of repentance, severe in punishment, owner of abundance. There is no deity except Him; to Him is the destination.” [40:1-2])
Saying “la ilaha ill Allah wahdahu la sharika lah, lahul mulku wa lahul hamdu wa huwa `ala kulli shay’in qadir” (there is nothing worthy of worship except Allah, He has no partner, His is the Dominion and Praise, and He is able to do all things) a hundred times.
The most beneficial form of protection from Shaytan: abundance of remembrance of Allah, the Exalted.